Islam, Life

Prayers for Christchurch

I cannot sleep.

I think of my sleeping daughters, my husband, and my family living in the West. I think of the families in Christchurch who quickly kissed/hugged/salaamed goodbye before attending Friday prayer, and then wept goodbye when they buried their loved ones. I think of gunfire and screams shattering Friday prayer, and the blood of men, women and children splattering over walls and soaking into carpets.

My heart breaks and rages over this tragic culmination of the rising tide of anti-immigration and anti-Muslim sentiment. For those who ask for proof of the harm of Islamaphobia, I give you today’s bloody carnage.

Murder is what happens when people choose hate over love, and forget what it means to be human.

Please support the survivors of the Christchurch mosque shootings, and share it with your loved ones.

Pray for the families who have buried their mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, wives, daughters and sons. Pray for humanity. God help us all.

Islam, Seekers Guidance

“Dear Ustadha Raidah” podcast is live!

I’m so excited to share that my podcast series, Dear Ustadha Raidah, is live! Please tune in, and share it with your friends and family.

I’ve been quietly recording my podcast episodes at night, while my daughters are asleep. Alhamdulilah, for the most part, they haven’t been waking up much! This is also why a 60 min podcast is a bit beyond me, at this stage of my life :p Please make dua for me, my family, SeekersGuidance, and remember to donate to support this podcast series. Please rest assured that what you donate, in part, does reach me ❤ And woo, thank you for funding my life!


Islam, Life, Love, Prophet

My letter came second in the Letter To The Beloved ﷺ competition!

Alhamdulilah, my letter won second place in the Letters To The Beloved competition! I am so surprised, so grateful and a little embarrassed. You can read it here, alongside the incredible winning entry and my friend Lina Abdul Wahab’s heartbreaking third place entry.

My deepest gratitude goes to Letters to the Beloved ﷺ team, Rabata, Sanad Collective, and especially to Anse Tamara Gray bringing my letter to life with her warm, heartfelt recitation ❤ I hope to read it to my daughters when they’re older some day. You can listen to the recording here (scroll to 26 min). I loved hearing from Anse Tamara, as always, and was really moved by Brother Ali’s talk (48 min). He acknowledges the role of women in understanding Prophetic love.

I would love to say that I wrote this letter with a warm cup of tea at a quiet cafe – but I didn’t. I wrote it in my bedroom, in quiet snatches while my daughters were asleep, over several nights. (I try not to have tea close by because I could spill it on my MacBook Air in my chronic tiredness – as I have done previously!!!) I edited it a couple of times, and then sent it just in time for the deadline lol. This is my modus operandi, these days :p

If you’re an exhausted mama, I hope my letter brings you some comfort. If you’re an exhausted mama writer, then I hope my letter shows you that what we lack in time, we make up for in other innumerable ways – and God, in His Mercy, fills in the rest.

If you haven’t already, please read the different letters from past competitions. I’m blown away by what the children have written, especially! And maybe, just maybe, you can set the intention to write your own to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). His blessed heart and soul is connected to ours, even when we forget.

Beauty, Islam

Letters to the Beloved ﷺ

And We have not sent you, [O Muhammad], except as a mercy to the worlds [Al-Anbiyaa’ 21:107]

Keen to explore a writing exercise that is also spiritually elevating? Please sign up for the wonderful annual opportunity – Letters to The Beloved ﷺ

I love how this competition is open even to children, up to age 8. That’s how we can grow a more resilient, more compassionate and more forgiving generation of Muslims. By tying their hearts to the Beloved.

This reminds me of the stories I tell my daughter about Prophet Muhammed (peace and blessings be upon him). I hope to tie her heart to him, so that he will come alive to her, from this young, and for the rest of her life.

Islam

Spiritual Abuse workshop by Rabata

Register at ribaat.rabata.org before Dec 16th

I’m so thrilled to share this exciting workshop. It’s so timely, and so necessary. I absolutely love the majority of female scholars teaching this course ❤ Let’s empower ourselves and our communities with knowledge on how to spot spiritual predators, so we can protect ourselves and perhaps even stop them from causing so much harm. Click here for the registration link. 

Islam, SeekersHub Global

SeekersHub Ramadan Podcast and lesson sets!

How is your Ramadan going? Alhamduliah for these first ten days of Allah’s Mercy. Drinking soaked chia seeds after iftar and during suhoor has really helped me. Try it out and see 🙂

Check out these fantastic downloadable lesson sets at SeekersHub. Please share widely!

Planning For Success: Steps To Raising Righteous Muslim Children with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Zakat: Everything You Need To Know On The 3rd Pillar of Islam

Getting Married, with Ustadha Shireen Ahmed and Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

The Higher Aims of Fasting with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Stories of the Prophets of Allah with Shaykh Ahmad Saad

Understanding the Hadith: “Religion is Sincere Concern” with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

The Divine Opening: Surah al-Fatiha Explained with Shaykh Yahya Rhodus

You can play these while at home, in the car, or wherever else suits you. May Allah reward the SeekersHub team for putting these together.

SeekersHub’s daily Ramadan Podcast has also been so inspiring and beneficial. For a sample, click on Allah’s Mercy Over His Wrath: What Does It Mean For Us? by Shaykh Muhammad Adeyinka Mendes.

 

 

Islam, Life, Parenting

Ramadan!

SubhanAllah, time really flies. Ramadan is literally just around the corner! May Allah grant us all the ability to honour this blessed guest, and help us restore ourselves through the winds of mercy.

Last Ramadan, I gave birth, alhamdulilah. This time around, I’m nursing an active 11 month old baby. The minimum requirement for me is to give an honest attempt at fasting. I’d love tips from experienced mothers 🙂

Here are some useful links from the SeekersHub Global answer service in regards to nursing/pregnancy and Ramadan:

Fasting Ramadan: Pregnancy, Breastfeeding & You

My Friend’s Baby Breastfeeds Throughout the Day. Is She Exempt From Fasting?

Pregnant Women & Fasting

Pregnancy & Making Up Fasts: Does She Really Have To?

May Allah bless the team behind SeekersHub global, who all work so hard!

*On that note, if you have any Shafi’i fiqh/general counsel questions you’d like me to answer, please post it directly on the SeekersHub answer service, and not through my Facebook account, blog or twitter. These are my personal accounts, and what I blog/tweet is not endorsed by SeekersHub Global. Thank you and may Allah reward you!

 

 

Islam, Seekers Guidance

Sign up for classes at SeekersGuidance!

ImageRemember to sign up for one or more of the incredible courses at SeekersGuidance! I’ve studied several courses at SG, and each one has added something positive and constructive to my life.

Just to name a few, Islamic Marriage taught me strategies for effective conflict resolution, Islamic Parenting taught me the need to inculcating God-consciousness and internal motivation from a young age, and The Rights of Parents taught me the importance of being kind and respectful to parents, regardless of what they do. It’s always refreshing to learn what Islam actually teaches, instead of being stuck in guilt-inducing cultural patterns.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Allah makes the way to Jannah easy for him who treads the path in search of knowledge.” [Muslim].

It’s not too late to sign up! Registration opened on March 24th 🙂

education, Islam

The Concept of Education in Islam – Professor Naquib Al-Attas

vintage-fountain-pen-2-1148654-mI came across an excellent book worth reading – The Concept of Education in Islam, by Professor Naquib Al-Attas.

Do read the first 19 pages, and reflect on the last paragraph – especially if you’re a parent or educator.

In the light of the foregoing definitions and explanations, the words of the Prophet, when he said: “My Lord educated me, and so made my education most excellent,” may be paraphrased in the following way: “My Lord made me to recognize and acknowledge, by what (i.e. adab) He progressively instilled into me, the proper places of things and the order of creation, such that it led to my recognition and acknowledgement of His proper place in the order of being and existence; and by virtue of this, He made my education most excellent.”
Does anyone know where I can purchase this book?
Islam, Seekers Guidance, SeekersHub Global

Register for SeekersGuidance courses!

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Sign up before it’s too late! Classes begin on January 6th, and registration closes on January 20th.

Some great practical courses are (in order of potential relevance lol):

1) Islamic Marriage: Guidance For Successful Marriage and Married Life

Always a big hit, and from personal experience, everything taught is applicable. Marriage tips 101.

Lesson One: Marriage as Spiritual Act. Why Marriage is Half of Religion
Lesson Two: The Prophetic Model of Marriage
Lesson Three: Whom to Marry
Lesson Four: The Process of Getting Married
Lesson Five: Getting to Know & Engagement
Lesson Six: Wedding Preparations and Issues
Lesson Seven: Marriage Contract & Agreement
Lesson Eight: Successful Marriage: Rights & Responsibilities
Lesson Nine: Rights & Responsibilities of Husband and wife
Lesson Ten: Dealing with Disputes: Why Disputes Happen in Marriage
Lesson Eleven: How to Resolve Disputes and Repair Relations
Lesson Twelve: Closing Counsels on Successfully Getting Married

2) Islamic Parenting: Raising Upright Children

Having kids – not for the faint of heart! Arm yourself with the necessary information.

Lesson 1: Introduction to the Course
Lesson 2: Introduction to Text
Lesson 3: Raising Young Children
Lesson 4: Reaching Adolescence
Lesson 5: Teaching the Qur`an & Other Lessons
Lesson 6: Protecting Children from Negative Influences
Lesson 7: Social Manners
Lesson 8: Disciplining of Children
Lesson 9: The Fruits of Proper Upbringing
Lesson 10: The Dangers of Neglectful Parenting
Lesson 11: Key Contemporary Issues
Lesson 12: Conclusion of Islamic Parenting

3) The Rights Of Parents

Very handy for tricky situations with parents and in-laws. Sacred knowledge is the ultimate antidote for culturally-inflicted headaches.

Lesson 1: Introduction to the text and Birr al Walidayn (Rights of Parents)
Lesson 2: Birr in speech
Lesson 3: Birr in the body
Lesson 4: Financial support and conflicting orders
Lesson 5: Birr and the rules of Marriage
Lesson 6: Birr after the death of Parents and Birr of grandparents
Lesson 7: Disrespect of Parents (uquq)
Lesson 8: Uquq continued
Lesson 9: Uquq continued
Lesson 10: Rules related to Uquq and Hadith stories about Uquq
Lesson 11: The High Station of the Mother and Birr with extended family
Lesson 12: The Rights of Children